When coming up with the title for this post, I kept thinking of the Mad Hatter and March Hare from Alice in Wonderland singing A Very Merry Unbirthday at their tea party. As upside down and backwards as the song might be it has an interesting message. Although we celebrate our birth with a party, cake, balloons, and gifts once a year, we should celebrate every day of the year, thankful that we’ve been blessed to live another day. We may not have all the grandeur that only our birthday can provide, but we can celebrate every other day by living it to the fullest, getting one step closer to becoming the best version of ourselves.
These thoughts came as a result of seeing someone on Facebook say, “I won’t be doing Christmas this year.” I’ve heard this said before, but for some reason when I read it this time, it caught me off guard and I was confused about what it meant.
Are you not putting up a tree and decorating? Are you not buying gifts? Or receiving gifts? Listening to anything and everything but Christmas music? Going out of your way to avoid seeing houses with lights? You are going to take a rain check on all family functions? What does it mean when someone says they aren’t “doing” Christmas? I’m just absolutely baffled by that statement. Maybe we have two different ideas of Christmas.
As a child, I remember my mom wearing a pin on her coat during the holidays that said “Remember the Reason for the Season”. Christmas, for me, is a time to enjoy our loved ones as much as we can, a time to be grateful for all we have and all we’ve been given, a time to be a blessing to others, and a time to bask in joy as we celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ.
So when I hear someone say they aren’t “doing” Christmas I really interpret it as them saying they aren’t going to allow themselves to be filled with joy, they don’t want to spend time with family, and they aren’t interested in expressing gratitude for what they do have in life – even if it really isn’t much, we can all find something to be thankful for. Let’s get real here, if you can’t recognize how blessed you are, how can you turn around and bless someone else? Just by having the ability and opportunity to read this makes you blessed beyond measure.
Holidays can be rough on people emotionally and financially. I totally get it. Most of us have been there at some point and you’re not alone. What I’m about to say, isn’t to discredit what you’re going through, what you’ve gone through, or how you feel in anyway. It’s my own realization I’ve come to through sorrow and hardship. Find thankfulness in the loved ones you have and the time you can still spend with them. Find thankfulness for all of the little things we take for granted in life: roof, heat, water, food – even air to breathe! Once we focus on all the things we have been blessed with in life, joy becomes easier to flow through us as we are able to understand giving. With Christmas around the corner, I can see no more perfect time than now to practice thankfulness especially with Thanksgiving only a few days away. We all have the ability to give something whether it is a kind word, time volunteering at a soup kitchen, services that you are talented or skilled at, some cookies or fudge you baked, or a DIY you made out of things you already have at home. Christmas is a season to recognize and embrace how blessed we are and choose to bless others in return.
I don’t get why anyone would say they aren’t “doing” Christmas. I strive to do Christmas everyday. I strive to be grateful all 365 days in the year and strive to bless others as I’ve been blessed. I strive to be filled with joy year round. So if someone really doesn’t want to “do” Christmas, I will meet them there. Let’s have a Very Merry UnChristmas everyday so we can celebrate the good in life.
What are your thoughts about not “doing” Christmas? How do you celebrate?