When I was in high school, I had my dirty blonde hair teased on top and straightened on the bottom in an attempt to pull off a punk/emo hair style, forced myself to wear contacts every day because I didn’t think glasses fit my face, wore skirts and dresses that fit the only color palette I knew: black (because it was slimming and black goes with everything), and wouldn’t leave the house without a border of black liquid eyeliner on my top and bottom lash line. Although I look back now and wince a little, my style choices at the time made me happy and feel not only beautiful, but comfortable.
I remember a high school friend saying to me one day that she wanted to see me without makeup. I laughed and thought yeah right, you’ll never see me without makeup – at least not without my eyeliner. I didn’t see a reason not to wear eyeliner. It made me happy and I liked it.
Fast forward to the present and you have a girl who loves getting dressed up and wearing makeup still, but has somehow become more comfortable simply being herself. I don’t worry about the superficial thoughts that might be going through someone’s mind when they look at me. I wear colors because I want to and I don’t worry whether or not they won’t be as slimming as black. I grew my hair out and dyed it red because I’ve wanted to have hair like Ariel since I was two. You’ll probably find me sporting Ray Bans more than contacts now because not only do I want to look hipster, but, if it’s an early morning, a cup of coffee just isn’t going to make my eyes burn any less when I’m attempting to shove a contact in. I also don’t spend an eternity trying to doll myself up with a beautiful makeup look. Because I’m a beauty consultant, I won’t leave the house without looking finished, but I’m not going to do the same makeup to look finished as I would to go to a masquerade ball (well, maybe sometimes … if I’m feeling fancy). The beauty of it is though, I would be comfortable leaving my house without wearing any makeup.
Makeup has the ability to make a woman feel powerful and confident in a newly created persona, but having a naked face allows you to embrace your true beauty and in doing so conjure an inner confidence that is just as empowering. Sometimes feeling truly comfortable with yourself and who are is a gradual process that develops over time.
I have a bit of a fun experiment for you to try. If you don’t wear makeup, I want you to journal your thoughts as to why you don’t. Then I want you to make a consistent effort for an entire week to wear makeup and journal how each day makes you feel, what your thoughts are, and how people respond to you. Then the following week switch back to not wearing makeup and journal it. Compare your entries and comment your thoughts. If you do wear makeup, it’s the same process in reverse. If you’re in the middle of the spectrum and wear makeup on and off then do your first journal, then for the first week don’t wear any makeup and the following week doll yourself up. Journal, compare, comment. I’d be curious to hear what you have to say and how or if your thoughts have changed.
True beauty comes from within and is revealed through our words and actions, but a huge aspect of inner beauty deals with confidence and self-esteem that is often reflected in our outward appearance. Sometimes we need to break barriers of comfortability in order to allow ourselves the ability to have options and a choice.